What's more important ? Your own success or someone else's failure ?
If you were on Team A, and Team B was consistently beating you at whatever sport or activity, what do you think you would do about it ?
Would you spend your time trash talking Team B, or would you focus on yourself and how you can better your team. The answer seems quite obvious, but I have many times seen quite the opposite.
You know how I feel about haters... I talk about them all the time. If you find yourself talking smack about someone else or Team B consistently, take a step back and figure out why you're doing it, and how it's only embarassing you. Because the truth is, Team B isn't affected by your words, and they in fact may only boost their egos.
My biggest problem I've EVER had with people, and my biggest pet peeve is when people do a lot of "talking" and little "doing."
I usually find that these people are also really afraid of the truth and are buddy-buddy with denial. Because the truth is mean, but it is not your enemy, it will only help you and denial will only set you back.
Wow... a lot of my posts have not had much "flow" lately... probably because there's a lot of buzz going on in my mind and there's so much going on up there lately I haven't been able to effectively get it out.
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There will always be haters. No matter where you go or what you do, they will always be there.
ReplyDeleteLike it or not they create balance in personalities. Unfortunately, you sometimes get into a situation where the haters outweigh everyone else and the balance is thrown out of wack.
You're right in what you said about other people just feeding on the haters. It's like a drug to them, it's addicting.
The best way to deal with this obviously start by being yourself. You know you best and if you know that you're not contributing to any of this nonsense then you have done everything in your power. The downside to all of this is that even though you are you and you're the best you can be, if the haters outweigh the people like you, it still effects you in a negative way.
Anyway, I've struggled with this problem for a long time now mainly because I was a hater myself. I used to be the one to start drama, be a loud mouth and piss people off. I'm ashamed of this which is why it hits home for me to see this effecting you so greatly.
Francis, you are amazing. Keep doing what you're doing. Let's finish this strong, together, and be the best we can be. And that's all anyone can expect from you. If that's not enough for them, well you know where they can shove it.
& Always, MB